What Is True Love? A Dive Into Soul Memory & Sacred Attraction
Nov 25, 2025
Love is omnipresent in the universe. Our essential nature is love. And yet, we forget, we feel lack, we search for it and we mourn when our world appears to embrace hatred, fear and suffering.
Kabir, the great mystic poet is reported to have said; “Asking where is love is like the fish in the sea asking ‘Where is the water?’ ”
The State Of Forgetfulness
When we are not aware of love’s presence in our lives, we are actually in a state of forgetting our reality. Just as some persons are affected with Alzheimer’s, and may forget the name of their loved ones, many people have Alzheimer’s of the soul and have forgotten that life is love.
The process of forgetting has been purposely or unconsciously programmed into us. As we move on our life path, we have the power to release wrong conditioning and programming and discover the reality of love as our natural essence of being.
Remembering Life Is The Real Love
As we become more and more sensitive, we may realise that killing animals for food is against our essential human nature or that war is not the way to solve problems. We realise that each life is sacred and that our role is to be custodians of nature rather than her destroyer.
When someone identifies with pain, the release of pleasure hormones diminishes. When we identify with pleasure and joy, pain is diminished. As scientist Candice Pert says; “Our bodies are hardwired for bliss.” But with all the pressures of survival, we may forget this fact.
Mystics down the ages have been reminding us: “Remember, remember! You are love. You are bliss. You are consciousness!” It is interesting that when people die, before death comes, they remember that life is love. People who come back from a near death experience, carry a profound awareness that life is love and this gives rise to gratitude. When we give birth, or when a baby is born, we remember that life is love just by being close to the baby.
Intimate Loving Relationships
When we meet someone special and experience intimacy, we call this ‘falling in love.’ It is interesting that this phrase is used to describe the love phenomenon. In actual fact, we don’t ‘fall in love.’ This term describes falling into the animal instinct of sexuality and so-called civilised persons believe this is a fall from grace.
When we are in love, it is actually a reconnecting with what is inherently true in humans, tenderness, empathy, joy, sensitivity and a psychedelic experience of life. To share this with another is an exquisite and sacred gift of the divine. It is a reminder that the divine is already present in our bodies, emotions and psyche.
Once I entered into a love relationship with an exceptional man who is a deep meditator. It was a profound experience to dive into the phenomenon of being struck by the thunderbolt of love with all the passion and longing for fusion this brings. This very human experience is infused with God. To join with another in sacred union is a miracle, a gift of the divine.
We both felt divine intervention in our meeting. He walked over to me during a dance and his presence pierced through my outer persona directly to the essence of my femininity. We danced together, and in that dance, we experienced a remembering of who we are to each other, the fulfilment of a promise made in another life. We stepped out of time and space and found ourselves in infinity. We entered into Satori together.
Some persons who were present at this dance event reported seeing a flash of light around us as we met. We experienced an Angelic presence entering us simultaneously.
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Love, Consciousness, Healthy Communication, And Bliss
There is a saying that to be in love is to wear ‘rose tinted spectacles.’ I say, being out of love is to wear dark glasses which don’t allow light into our experience of life. When we remove these dark glasses, we will understand that life is not meant to be a dark path of sorrow and despair. It is meant to be a dancing, hugging, joyful path full of light and love.
When we realise this, we will throw off our shackles of ignorance and embrace a life of Love, Consciousness and Bliss.
Some persons may think, “Yes, it is easy so long as you meet Mr. or Ms. Right.” Actually, Mr. or Ms. Right show up when our inner vibration is in resonance with love. Like attracts like. If I am a spiteful person, I will attract spiteful people around me. If I am a war-like person, I will attract more people of this type. If I throw off the shackles of wrong conditioning and open to love within myself I will attract loving beings around myself.
This is a basic law of attraction. If you wish to attract someone loving, become love. If you wish to attract someone beautiful, live in beauty within yourself. If you wish to attract someone fun loving, become a fun person!
Many people hope to attract a saviour. Their inner dialogue is; “I am miserable but a saviour will come and bring me the experience of joy.” What will actually happen is that two persons with the same inner dialogue will be attracted to each other, i.e. two miserable persons.
Love Is The Greatest Healer
The fact is, we cannot escape from facing our inner shadows, karmas and incomplete life issues. Meditation, Personal Development and Tantra all help us to release the past, open and discover wholeness. This state of wholeness is always rooted in love.
A great healer, Peter Mandel, who I studied with for 7 years said: “Illness arises in places within where love is not. When we can bring love to that place, healing will happen automatically.” This is a very profound statement, which I have observed is really true. When we enter deeply into any inner pain, or ill area within us, and we go through a process of releasing the cause, this area which was in stagnation can now open to receive love and come back into resonance with the default setting of life.
Strategies To Avoid Pain
Many times, we actively push love away because we have been wounded in the past and don’t wish to feel that same pain again. We are afraid of our vulnerability. We need to gather courage and be open to the surgery provided by love. Because, in actual fact, when love arrives in our life, it seeks to throw out whatever is not love. A big housecleaning may happen where all kinds of old wounds, vulnerabilities and incomplete issues come up to the surface to be acknowledged and released back to source.
Just imagine how many pages of writing, how many songs, how many films are all devoted only to one subject, the subject of love. It is something that consumes almost every waking moment in the life of humans. And yet, we don’t make this a priority in our culture. We make priorities of money, recognition or gluttony. These are all substitutes for love.
The whole spiritual path can be put into a nutshell; “Return to love, and become love itself.”
Travelling the path of love is as natural as breathing. It is a vibrant, juicy path full of laughter and celebration. As you open to this path, it will take you to your original essence as a human being.
Being Love Itself – Osho Quote
“The real thing is not a relationship but a state; one is not in love but one is love. Whenever I talk about love remember this: I am talking about the state of love. Yes, relationship is perfectly good, but the relationship is going to be false if you have not attained to the state of love. Then the relationship is not only a pretension, it is a dangerous pretension, because it can go on befooling you; it can go on giving you the sense that you know what love is, and you don’t know. Love basically is a state of being; one is not in love, one is love.
And that love arises not by falling in love with somebody. That love arises by going in – not by falling but by rising, soaring upwards, higher than you. It is a kind of surpassing. A man is love when his being is silent; it is the song of silence. A Buddha is love, a Jesus is love – not in love with a particular person, but simply love. Their very climate is love. It is not addressed to anybody in particular, it is spreading in all directions. Whosoever comes close to a Buddha will feel it, will be showered by it, will be bathed in it. And it is unconditionally so.
Love makes no conditions, no ifs, no buts. Love never says, “Fulfill these requirements, then I will love you.” Love is like breathing: when it happens you are simply love. It does not matter who comes close to you, the sinner or the saint. Whosoever comes close to you starts feeling the vibe of love, is rejoiced. Love is unconditional giving – but only those are capable of giving who have.
One of the most mysterious things about man is that he goes on giving things which he doesn’t have. You go on giving love and you don’t have it in the first place, and you go on asking love from others who don’t have it in the first place. Beggars begging from beggars.
Love first has to happen in the deepest core of your being. It is the quality of being alone, happily alone, joyously alone. It is the quality of being a no-mind, of being silent. Contentless consciousness is the space, the context in which love arises in you.
And when it arises in you it is so much, it is unbearable. Its pleasure is so unbearable that it becomes almost pain. It is heavy like the clouds which are full of rain; they have to shower, they have to rain, they have to unburden themselves. When love arises in the silent heart, it has to be shared, it has to be given; you are helpless.
And the person you give your love to is not obliged to you in any way. In fact, you are obliged to the person because he helped you unburden, he shared something that was too much in you. And the economics of love is: the more you give, the more you have, because in your silent being you are joined with the oceanic, the divine source of all. And you can go on sharing…more and more goes on flowing in you, it goes on welling up.
Yes, you are right, love is the only hope of the world. And we are coming close to that turning point: either total war or total love. And this is a question of either/or, there is no third alternative. There is nothing like a compromise now, you cannot be in the middle. Man has to choose. And it is a question of life and death: war is death, love is life.” - Osho, The Guest, Talk #5
Loving Is Receiving Meditation
This Partner Meditation was created by Dhyan Maneesh, a French Devotee of Osho, who is a clairvoyant healer.
He explains:
“A fountain needs to be filled with water before it overflows. And, so it is, with love. If we have never experienced being filled by love, how can we overflow? Love is omnipresent in the universe, always showering. All we need to do is open ourselves to receive it. Once we are full of love then it will overflow without any effort.”
Forget about giving love. Learn to be receptive to the lovethat is omnipresent in the universe. Let go of conditioning that says ‘Give love’! How can a person who has never received enough think of giving? It would be like a dried-up fountain trying to overflow! The more you learn to be receptive, the more you will be able to overflow with love, without any effort.
It is very common that conditioning about love follows a scenario as follows: Children need to receive love in order to grow into loving adults. However, in many cases, the parents are not capable of loving their children enough. A child before the age of 7 believes that whatever happens in life revolves around them.
They will thus think, “If I am not receiving the love I need, it is because something is wrong with me. I am unworthy to receive love.” This thought form will become a program which goes into the subconscious and rules the person from underneath.
When this person grows up, it is highly possible that love will come towards them, in various ways, and they will literally push that love away. They may find some excuse such as, “This person is not right for me in this way or that way. Therefore, I cannot receive this love.” But deep down, it is their feeling of unworthiness that is driving their response. As we open to love, we need to melt our unworthiness, break down the protection that has built up around the heart and open to receive love.
The Method
Partners sit opposite each other with enough distance to hold arms out lengthwise.
1. Opening to Love / Receiving Love (10 minutes)
Close your eyes and rhythmically open your arms with each in-breath, to the love which is omni-present in the universe.
Bring hands to the heart chakra with the out-breath, and receive love deep into your heart and whole body.
2. Receiving Love as you look into your partner’s eyes (10 minutes)
Open eyes, continue arm movements and go on receiving love directly from the universe as you look into your partner’s eyes.
3. Sitting in Yab Yum (10 minutes)
Come slowly together in Yab Yum Position and both partners continue receiving love directly from the universe. As you continue this practice, eventually without any effort, love will simply begin overflowing. You may find that you become love itself.
FAQ
What does true love actually mean?
What is true love? It is the quiet, undeniable recognition that beneath all the identities we wear, every person is made of the same essence, love. True love arises when two separate human beings meet each other with presence, honesty, and a willingness to see the whole person rather than the projection of who they wish the other to be.
True love is not a fantasy. It is not built on unrealistic expectations or the hope that one person will fix our lives. Instead, it is grounded in mutual respect, healthy communication, and a shared devotion to truth. It welcomes the other person’s perspective with openness, while remaining connected to one’s own authentic self. In essence, true love is a state of being. It is unconditional love expressed through real human actions like listening, caring, supporting, and choosing connection even when challenges arise.
How do you know you have true love?
You know you are experiencing true love when the relationship becomes a space where both partners feel safe to be real. True love does not erase individuality, it honours it. You remain an autonomous individual, yet you feel deeply connected, supported, and understood.
In real life, true love is recognized not through perfection, but through presence. Both partners practice healthy communication, speak honestly about feelings, listen to the other’s boundaries, and grow because of the relationship, not in spite of it. There is room for vulnerability, room for mistakes, and room for repair.
A sign of genuine love is that both people feel more themselves. You feel seen, valued, and fully accepted. You can talk about desires, fears, dreams, and the everyday details of life. You feel loved because they stand with you in the truth of who you are.
When a relationship becomes a source of well-being, personal growth, joy, and mutual respect and when you can look at each other and sense a special connection that deepens over time, that is how you know you have true love.
What is the real meaning of love?
The real meaning of love is remembering that connection is the essence of life. Love is what happens when two separate human beings choose to see each other clearly, without trying to change or control the other. It is the willingness to meet another person with openness, curiosity, and truth.
Real love honours individuality while creating a powerful special bond between two people. It is the balance between closeness and freedom, a dynamic where partners support each other’s well-being, dreams, and other relationships, while still nurturing the shared connection.
Love is not merely a feeling. It is the ongoing act of paying attention, listening deeply, offering respect, and creating a space where both partners can grow. It is the practice of staying present even when fear or old wounds arise. This is the kind of love the Bible tells stories about, the kind that poets describe, the kind that transforms relationships, families, and lives.
The real meaning of love is the courage to show up with truth and tenderness, again and again. It is the reminder that we are never truly separate, that beneath every story, every hurt, every moment of joy, we are made of the same essence.
